Loving my husband

I am not one who looks back and dwell in my past unless it is worth visiting. Thoughts of how much my relationship has grown over these 10 years with my husband is definitely worth  rewinding , then fast forwarding it to the present.

Marriage life was not an easy path. It takes a whole lot of hard work, commitment and lots of prayers.

To be honest, whenever I attend weddings, at the back of my mind, I would ask myself if the couple really knew what they are getting themselves into because it is so easy to get sucked into the fantasies and glamour of getting married and falling in 'love'.

God's timing is so wonderful as during my wedding anniversary week, my Bible Study Fellowship (BSF) lesson was on marriage and divorce. About how God hates divorce and how the Bible talks about God's intention and importance of marriage- procreation and the most intimate union of love and companionship.

Let me share with you a snippet of my BSF notes about the importance of marriage..

"Marriage is so important that it overrides all other relationships, even the relationship of a child to father and mother. In marriage, God joins a man and a woman together as "one flesh"- body, soul and spirit. When Jesus said that no human being has the right to separate this union, He laid down the principle that divorce is not God's will....Like God's relationship with His people, marriage is a covenant relationship...Marriage points to the eternal reality of Christ and the Church. Christ loved the Church and died for the Church; the Church loves and submits to Christ... God rejects divorce because it damages His picture of His own faithful love for His people."

Marriage is one of God's good gifts. But it requires unwavering commitment and repeated forgiveness.

Will marriage give you happiness and personal fulfilment? My answer is no. So, don't go into it looking for it in your marriage. I remembered an author once said in her book that "marriage is not about being happy, but being holy."

So back to my marriage with CT.. it is still a "work in progress" but I have seen fruits and watched how my cries to God has been answered as I watch my wonderful husband shower me with kisses before I sleep every night and before he leaves for work in the early morning, a wonderful father who plays with our children after dinner, a more patient father who instils discipline with love when it is due and a loving father who prays with his children before bedtime every night.

God is good for answering my prayers and how He has moulded my husband to be what he is today.

Dear Heavenly Father,
I pray and expect more good things to come from you, Lord as I claim on Your promises in the Bible that you will answer my prayers! You are a good God and I pray that You will use my marriage as a blessing to others and to bring you glory!
In Jesus' Name, Amen

"Which of you, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!" (Matthew 7:10,11)

"I tell you the truth, at the renewal of all things, when the Son of Man sits on his glorious throne, you who have followed me will also sit on twelve thrones, judging the twelve tribes of Israel. And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or children or fields for my sake will receive a hundred times as much and will inherit eternal life. But many who are first will be last and many who are last will be first. " (Matthew 19:28-30)

 

Our 10th Wedding Anniversary

Celebrated my 10th wedding anniversary on 8 Aug 2014 and months before that, I was actually thinking of ambitious plans like having a family photoshoot (figured I would probably chuck the pictures taken in some corner or cupboard), a renewal of vows wedding in church (too much logistics involved).

For the past anniversaries, I would go on a date with hubby alone but this time round, I thought it would be nice to include our children for them to celebrate together with us.

In the end, given that both CT and I are simple people, we decided to go Pulau Ubin for lunch and cycling. I am so glad CT chose this date for us to be married as it is not only easy to remember but also the children only go to school for celebrations in the morning and the next day is a public holiday since it is National Day.

My brave girl cycling on her own down the slope

where sleeping dogs lie



The order we went by with me cycling right behind

We cycled all the way to Chek Jawa, went to the Mangroves Area, Quarry and cycled back. Spotted big monitor lizards, crabs, wild boar and monkeys along the way. Loved it!

 

Monitor Lizard spotted

Quarry..if only we could swim in it

Cycling past a wild boar

Monkeys on the right side

It was quite a long and tough journey with stony tracks along the way to Chek Jawa. Many times, Danielle had to get off her bike to walk instead because it was way too dangerous. However,  we made it and I was sure the children felt accomplished!

After that, we took the boat back and drove to Changi Airport for much needed air con and good food!

Thank God for such a wonderful weather as it was quite windy and for keeping all of us safe!

Indeed, a wonderful time with the children celebrating our 10th Wedding Anniversary.

Caleb's first visit

It's Caleb's first visit to the hospital as a patient since birth. Thank God my children has been healthy enough to avoid going by to hospitals. On 1st July, just the second day after school reopened, Caleb commented that he fell down and his bone hurts. When I first looked at his elbow, it seems swollen and out of place.

During lunch he seemed okay but nearing to evening time, he said it was more painful. So I took him to the doctor down at my block, thinking maybe they have xrays in clinics. Sigh, but I was wrong. I made a wasted trip, paid for consultation which was about $20 just for the doctor to write a referral letter to someone to do the job for him. What easy money for the doctor to earn!

So after dinner, the family all went to bring Caleb to KK hospital. We had the peace and knew it wasn't a big problem but still, I wanted to get an xray done. Even if all is fine, well, at least Caleb gets to have fun seeing his bone in the xray film! I knew he would like that! :)

The process of seeing the triage nurse, to getting an xray done and a doctor's review went on so smoothly. The children had fun watching "Tom and Jerry" cartoon on TV while waiting.

The doctor said there's no bone out of place and maybe some hairline cracks causing the swell. So his hand was wrapped up in cast and was given a day of MC.

A week later, he was supposed to go back for a review but before it came, he seemed alright to me as he was already bouncing balls with his arm! So I took out the cast on my own and set him free!! Of course, I didn't go for the appointment back at the hospital!

Thank God for his speedy recovery and protection from an injury that could be worse!

June Holidays revisited

In a flash, the June Holidays just ended with the first day of school today. That is why I have more time now to blog.

This June holiday was fun-filled for the whole family. As much as I wanted to instil routine in my children, it proved to be so difficult because of my tuition class at home as well as frequent trips out of the house!

While they were home, I tried to do some activities with them. It was tiring for me as I had to plan lessons to guide them..but fun!

Doing art inspired by Piet Mondrian

 

During the beginning of school holidays, Danielle went for her art class organised by her school. So we took bus together to her school, then Caleb and I spent quality time together while waiting for her.

Went to the library together with Caleb as well as to the beach.

I have been interested in reading Children's Classic books and so at the beach, I brought along "The Trumpet of the Swan". Its an amazing book! I never had the love for reading when I was young. Glad to pick it up now that I have children!

During the 3 days when Danielle had her art class, I had a great time with my son and enjoying his company for 3 hours a day alone!!

During this holiday, we also went to many interesting libraries that we have not been to because it is far!

First up, we went to Woodlands Regional Library.

 

They have an Asian Children's Literature Section which I loved!!

 

It seemed like a treasure island where I borrowed amazing books like "The Royal Bee" by Frances and Ginger Park as well as "Crow Boy" by Taro Yashima 

 

Would definitely recommend these 2 books for ages 6-9 years old.

 

Aside from visiting Woodlands Library during the June Holidays, we also went to Bishan Libary and Jurong East Library

 

 

 

The reasons why I specially chose these libraries to visit is because I am always in search for good literature for my children to read and only big libraries like these ones that I visited carries these books. Getting my hands on these valued and treasure classics is fun!

 

Aside from visiting libraries, my family also went to KSL Resort, JB for church camp. It was one of the most amazing church camps as we had enough time to spend together as a family by swimming and watching a movie- Dragon 2 (since our hotel is on top of the shopping centre cum cinema) as well as getting fed spiritually from God's word.

 

 

 

 

 

Another highlight of this trip was also the visit of my ex-helper, Wina. She is from Indonesia and was a Muslim when we first had her. But by the end of her time with us, she converted and accepted Christ into her heart. She then moved to Kuantan to work in a Chinese Restaurant as her husband works in Malaysia. She actually took an overnight bus all the way to come to JB to visit us and stay one night with us at the church camp! God had a purpose and during the camp, she was ministered by the messages and went forward for prayers. So blessed to have known her! She also bought lots of stuff for the children and myself too!

 

She even wanted to give us a dinner treat..but of course, we couldn't allow that!

Roast Duck for dinner

During the church camp, the speaker Micheal Ross Watson shared on the topic, "Faith and Obedience". It was amazing to come from a guy who exemplified that in his life as he tells of his wonderful real life experiences of how God provides each time he obeys.

 

 

Also had an amazing time serving the Lord on stage during worship..

 

 

Worship with the children on stage with the Clancys from Australia

 

This guy that I served with. His name is Benjamin Lee. I first knew him when we were in Bedok Methodist Church. He was in primary school then. I always remembered him to be the only one seated right in front during the adult service and worshipping the Lord with his hands raised up. So encouraging and inspiring I thought as he was only in upper primary then.

 

Then in Secondary school, he was studying in a school where I was teaching in. He also became my student in the Computer Applications class. And now, God brought us together again in Riverlife church and during the church camp, I finally could serve with him on the stage as he plays the drums. Now, he has finished army and is now teaching in a drum school. Amazing guy with a heart for children as well as a talented musician. Am definitely thankful to God for allowing me to cross paths with him again and serving our Daddy God together!

 

After the amazing church camp, we also made our own trips to the Southern Islands. It was very fun especially if you like the outdoors! We went to St John, Lazarus and Kusu Island for swimming and picnic!

 

Blog it in a separate post here-  Trip to the Southern Islands

 

Also went to the Science Centre, specially to visit the new attraction there- KidsSTOP!

 

It was fun and interactive! I went with my mum together with Janine and Joyanne (my nieces).

 

By the way, pls remember to bring your own socks when you are there!!

 

digging fossils

The 7m giant slide is probably the most fun of all! Of course, you can opt to go from 3m onwards...up to your own confidence. Caleb started from 3m then in the end, he went to 5m. So proud of him!

I went too and went all the way up!! Super scary!

After that, we went to watch "Animalopolis" at the Omni Theatre! It was a humourous show of all kinds of animals.

 

 

Also brought the children to the National Museum where they had loads of fun there. Coincidentally, there was a section where they introduce the Southern Islands of Singapore. How apt since we just visited there.

 

 

 

All made from cardboard

Games for the children

Diorama art from toilet roll

Games with physics and art combined

Catching short films in a tent

Using torchlight as a paintbrush

Chalkboard fun

Genesis-appreciating photos

Defining Moments of Singapore

 

 I have learnt so much during this holidays and I hope the children, too have learnt something.

 

Lastly, to end off the holidays, we went to an event organised by NTUC at the Marina Bay Promontory. Its everything from the past- with games, food, shows, music etc etc..

 

Caleb receiving his prize in the Tikam game

Tikam Tikam

Zero Point rubber bands

Ding Dang Candy

Kacang Puteh stall

Ice Sticks

All of us enjoying ice sticks together and taking a selfie!

 

Playing marbles

Daddy, the trishaw man

Catching a glimpse of Wayang

 

Treated to fireworks at the end of it all

 

 

I couldn't ask for a better holiday- a time spent with the family having fun and learning together! All glory to God who has blessed us-kept us safe, healthy, happy and united as a family!